Time for another lesson in how to get people to listen to you.
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Okay, first off let’s remember this very important rule:
People believe only half of what you tell them, but 100% of what they say.
Therefore, in order to get them to even listen to you, you have to first get them to doubt what they already believe.
“How do I do you do that?” You ask them why.
Ask them to explain why they believe what they believe, and that is how you start to get them to doubt themselves because, for the most part, they will give you parroted answers.
What is a parroted answer? Parrots learn to reply to instructions in a way that makes it appear they know what they are doing, but the truth is that they have no understanding- they are just repeating what they have been told in response to some stimulus.
No disrespect meant, but it’s like talking to Jehovah’s Witnesses- they know verses and passages but they don’t know the proper interpretation because they take everything out of context in order to make it fit into their programmed belief system.
Here’s an example based on Christians being taught that Yeshua did away with the law: you ask them why they believe Yeshua did away with the law and they will most likely say he completed it, maybe even quoting Matthew 5:17.
That’s when you ask this question: “If something isn’t what it used to be, does that mean it has been changed?”
(The best way to control a discussion is to ask questions, and you need to ask leading questions, in that the question leads to the answer you want.)
Of course they will have to answer “Yes”, so then you ask them if Yeshua said (in that verse) that he did not come to change anything, but you say he did away with the law, isn’t that changing something? He said he didn’t come to change anything, but you say he did change something? How do you explain that?
This is when you look at their eyes. If their eyes go up to the right top side of their sockets, according to Neuro-Linguistic Programming theory that means they are trying to create an answer that they don’t have.
Accept it- ministry is Sales and Sales is all about psychology.
You are now on the right track, so while they are thinking you provide an answer- the one you want them to hear, and you do it respectfully and softly, such as …
“What he said is that not one letter or stroke of the pen in the Torah would change, so Torah obedience is still required by those who accept him as their Messiah. He said things wouldn’t change until everything was done, so if you can show me the new Jerusalem or the new earth, which Revelation talks about, then it appears Torah obedience is still valid for those who believe Yeshua is the Messiah.
So, do you believe he is the Messiah God promised to send?”
Again, you asked a question you already know the answer to, which would have to be “Yes”.
Now you follow that up with the one question that makes them really wonder if they are right: “So if you believe Yeshua is the Messiah, and he said the law remains valid, what do you think you should do?”
At this time, don’t be surprised or disappointed if they still hold to their old belief, but what you have done is to put a small crack in the dam they have built holding back the truth, and maybe with enough of this type of ministering, that crack will begin to widen and some of the truth may seep out. Eventually, with God’s help and proper questioning, you will be able to break down the dam their improper teaching has created, and they will accept what you are saying.
Here is an important fact to remember: people who are immediately convinced of what you are saying will be just as easily convinced of what someone else says later- they are not the ones who will benefit from your ministering to them.
So, watch where their eyes go when you ask them leading questions- if they go up to the left, then all they are doing is repeating what they have heard; but, if they go up to the right, then you are having an impact.
The ones who are stubbornly holding on to their beliefs, but whose eyes keep going up to the right when you ask them a question are the ones who have a chance of (eventually) changing their minds.
Be patient and practice on your own with the questions and answers you know you will need because most everyone comes back with the same church rhetoric, and you need to be prepared for it.
Thank you for being here and please remember to comment and share these messages with everyone you know, even non-believer. Hey, after all, you never know how fertile the soil is until you plant a seed in it.
That’s it for today, so l’hitraot and Baruch HaShem!